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Your marriage

What keeps a marriage well is not the big gestures. It is knowing each other, turning towards each other in ordinary moments, staying regulated when it gets hot, and repairing quickly when it goes wrong. Most of the practices here take under five minutes.

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22 practices
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Theme
Knowing your partner 5Answering bids 5Staying regulated in conflict 5Affection and touch 5Shared spiritual life 1Repair after rupture 1
How long you have
A minute 18Five minutes 4
Approach · Emotionally focused
Emotionally focused 22Gottman 17Core 7
When · Under stress
Under stress 22Any ordinary day 21After a row 19Something good 1

Offer your spouse one clear reassurance today: I am here, we are okay.

When they wobble, say the steadying thing plainly rather than assuming they know.

A minuteRepair after ruptureEmotionally focusedQur’an 9:40

When something hard lands, say it out loud: we will face this together.

Turn a my problem into an ours. Facing it as a team halves its weight.

A minuteShared spiritual lifeEmotionally focusedQur’an 9:71