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Your marriage

What keeps a marriage well is not the big gestures. It is knowing each other, turning towards each other in ordinary moments, staying regulated when it gets hot, and repairing quickly when it goes wrong. Most of the practices here take under five minutes.

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Shared spiritual life Emotionally focused A minute Clear all

Theme · Shared spiritual life

Staying regulated in conflict 18 Answering bids 10 Affection and touch 8 Knowing your partner 6 Repair after rupture 4 Shared spiritual life 2 Listening and understanding 1 Fondness and admiration 1

Approach · Emotionally focused

Gottman 3 Emotionally focused 2 Core 1

When

Any ordinary day 1 Under stress 1

Encourage one thing your spouse wants to try, and tell them you have got their back.

Go, I am here if it wobbles. A secure base is what lets someone venture out bravely.

A minuteShared spiritual lifeEmotionally focusedQur’an 5:2

When something hard lands, say it out loud: we will face this together.

Turn a my problem into an ours. Facing it as a team halves its weight.

A minuteShared spiritual lifeEmotionally focusedQur’an 9:71