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Your marriage

What keeps a marriage well is not the big gestures. It is knowing each other, turning towards each other in ordinary moments, staying regulated when it gets hot, and repairing quickly when it goes wrong. Most of the practices here take under five minutes.

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Theme · Staying regulated in conflict
Rebuilding trust 6Repair after rupture 2Staying regulated in conflict 2
How long you have · Five minutes
A minute 24Five minutes 2Twenty minutes 5
Approach
Core 1Gottman 1
When · After a row
Under stress 6After a row 2Coming and going 1Any ordinary day 1

If you take a break from a fight, name when you will come back, and come back.

Give me twenty minutes, I am not leaving this. Then return, calmer, as promised.

Five minutesStaying regulated in conflictGottmanQur’an 3:134

Name the softer feeling underneath the anger.

Before you speak, ask what you were afraid of, not what you were angry about. Usually it is something like: they are giving up on me, or I do not…

Five minutesStaying regulated in conflictCoreQur’an 42:37