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Your marriage
What keeps a marriage well is not the big gestures. It is knowing each other, turning towards each other in ordinary moments, staying regulated when it gets hot, and repairing quickly when it goes wrong. Most of the practices here take under five minutes.
Narrowed down
2 practicesTheme · Repair after rupture
How long you have · Five minutes
Apologise for what landed, not for what you meant.
If you owe an apology today, leave out the word "if" and leave out your intentions. Name what you actually did and what it cost them. "I dismissed…
Name what set you off, then tell the older story behind why it is a trigger for you.
Rewind to an earlier time you felt the same. Sharing that story helps your partner know you.