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What keeps a marriage well is not the big gestures. It is knowing each other, turning towards each other in ordinary moments, staying regulated when it gets hot, and repairing quickly when it goes wrong. Most of the practices here take under five minutes.
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2 practicesTheme · Rebuilding trust
How long you have · A minute
When · Any ordinary day
Deliberately hold your partner's good qualities in mind, and let cherishing crowd out resentful thoughts.
After trust is rebuilding, nurture cherishing: recall and dwell on what you value in them, on purpose.
Rebuild the small rituals of connection that eroded: predictable, reliable moments you can both count on.
Betrayal usually follows the quiet loss of daily connection. Restore steady rituals you can rely on to reconnect.