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What keeps a marriage well is not the big gestures. It is knowing each other, turning towards each other in ordinary moments, staying regulated when it gets hot, and repairing quickly when it goes wrong. Most of the practices here take under five minutes.

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Theme · Answering bids

Staying regulated in conflict 48 Answering bids 22 Fondness and admiration 15 Knowing your partner 14 Affection and touch 14 Repair after rupture 13 Gratitude 9 Listening and understanding 8 Rituals of connection 6 Shared spiritual life 6 Rebuilding trust 4

How long you have · A minute

A minute 22 Twenty minutes 2

Approach

Emotionally focused 10 Core 7 Gottman 5

When

Any ordinary day 11 Under stress 8 Something good 3

Before you respond, say back what you heard them mean.

Being understood, even before being agreed with, settles almost everything.

A minuteAnswering bidsCoreQur’an 42:38

When your partner is up against something, take their side: this is our problem, we will face it together.

Even if you see the other side, do not side with the enemy against your partner. Stand with them first.

A minuteAnswering bidsGottmanQur’an 9:71