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After harm
This area is for understanding what is happening in you after something harmful, and for settling. It is not a treatment programme.
Nothing here asks you to go back into a traumatic memory. Processing a trauma is work to do with a therapist who can hold it with you, not alone with a website. If you start to feel far away, unreal, or flooded while reading, stop and come back another time.
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2 practicesTheme · Face it gently
How long you have
This explains an approach used in therapy. It is not a set of instructions to follow alone.
You get to choose when to face it. Deciding not now, to stay safe today, is a valid choice, not failure.
Timing is yours. Pausing the hard work to protect yourself is part of the work, not a retreat from it.
When you are ready, face the hard memory in small, bearable doses, with support, not all at once and not never.
Avoiding forever keeps the fear alive; flooding yourself re-wounds. Small, chosen doses are how it loses its grip.