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After harm
This area is for understanding what is happening in you after something harmful, and for settling. It is not a treatment programme.
Nothing here asks you to go back into a traumatic memory. Processing a trauma is work to do with a therapist who can hold it with you, not alone with a website. If you start to feel far away, unreal, or flooded while reading, stop and come back another time.
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4 practicesTheme · Meaning after harm
How long you have
What happened to you is not who you are. Speak to yourself as you would to someone you love who was hurt.
Harm done to you is not a verdict on your worth. Trade the harsh inner voice for a kinder, truer one.
When trauma tells you that you are utterly alone and beyond help, treat that as the wound talking, not the truth. Do not despair.
A common voice in trauma says you are cast out, unreachable, beyond care. It feels total, but it is a symptom, not a fact, and acting against it,…
Healing is not pretending it never happened. It is letting it become part of a life that still grows.
You are not aiming to erase it. You are aiming for a self that carries it and keeps living, even growing.
You can relearn, slowly and through safe relationships, that help is near and that you are worthy of care.
Early or repeated harm can teach a person that the world is dangerous and they are on their own. That inner belief is not permanent; steady, safe…