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After harm
This area is for understanding what is happening in you after something harmful, and for settling. It is not a treatment programme.
Nothing here asks you to go back into a traumatic memory. Processing a trauma is work to do with a therapist who can hold it with you, not alone with a website. If you start to feel far away, unreal, or flooded while reading, stop and come back another time.
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2 practicesTheme · Your window of tolerance
How long you have
When you notice you are flooded, do one calming thing before any decision or hard conversation.
Do not negotiate from panic. Cool the body first, then think. The decision will still be there.
Learn your signs of too high (racing, panicky) and too low (numb, shut down). Aim for the steady middle.
There is a zone where you can feel and still think. Knowing when you are leaving it is half the skill.