A check
Which of these is the clearest sign that pulling back has stopped being a preference and started being a feeder?
You would rather have a quiet eveningYou find people tiringYou wanted to go, and you talked yourself out of it, and you felt reliefYou have not been to the masjid this week
Not quite
Preferring quiet is not the same as this, and plenty of people are drained by company and perfectly well. The tell is the shape: a genuine wish to go, an argument against it that you supplied yourself, and then relief. Relief is what marks the difference between choosing a quiet night and buying one at a price you will pay later.