If one thing stays with you

Let it be three, and they are short.

Control is a pattern, not an incident, and the fact that you cannot point to one night does not mean nothing is happening. Nothing in the religion requires you to be the container for another person's cruelty, and the exit routes exist, though which one is open to you needs a scholar and a lawyer and not a course. And leaving is the most dangerous period, which is the reason preparation happens beforehand and with somebody who does this work.

One person outside the loop who believes you changes more than anything you can do alone. Not because they fix it. Because they give you back your second instrument.