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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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6 practices
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Area
Anger 5Focus, starting, and ADHD 1
How long you have
A minute 1Five minutes 5
Who it is written for
A practitioner 6Someone I care about 5
Where you are right now
Coping, mostly 4Struggling right now 2
On your own, or with someone · Both of us together
On my own 91Involves someone else 16Both of us together 6
Theme
When anger turns to harm 4Getting assessed and diagnosed 1The fear underneath anger 1
Approach · Core
Core 6CBT 5ADHD skills 4Trauma informed 3Parts work 2Body based 1Emotionally focused 1Narrative 1
When · Under stress
Any ordinary day 31After a row 7Under stress 6

Ask it plainly. Do you think you are a threat to anyone you love? A vague anger problem turns into something workable the moment it has a name attached to it.

Then keep going, because the follow up questions carry most of the weight. Has there been any thought of killing someone, or of dying. What is in the…

Five minutesWhen anger turns to harmCoreQur’an 5:32

Hurting yourself is not always about coping. Sometimes it is aimed at somebody else, and until you know which it is you cannot know what would help.

This is uncomfortable to ask about and it is not an accusation. An act can be a way through an unbearable hour, or a message to someone who has…

Five minutesWhen anger turns to harmCoreQur’an 2:231

See what you made me do to myself. When self-harm is carrying a message like that, naming the message is not dismissing it, it is looking for the thing that could be said instead.

The question can be asked kindly and straight. Do you ever get angry enough with them to want to hurt yourself so that they feel it. People often say…

Five minutesWhen anger turns to harmCoreQur’an 42:40

An act meant to be heard rather than to end a life can still end one. Whatever you believe about the intent, lethality is a separate question and it always gets asked.

The ways this happens are ordinary and awful. A method more dangerous than the person realised. The friend who was meant to arrive, arriving late. A…

Five minutesWhen anger turns to harmCoreQur’an 25:68

When somebody's anger is filling the room, the bravest sentence available is usually the plainest one: you are frightening me right now.

It gives them a piece of information they almost never have, which is what they are actually doing to the person in front of them. It also puts…

A minuteThe fear underneath angerCoreQur’an 20:46

Expect more anxiety, low mood, drinking and drug use in the young people coming through now. And expect the boys to say less about it, so go looking for irritability, trouble and substances instead of waiting to be told.

Ask parents what they are seeing rather than only what they have been told, and ask the young person directly and privately. Screening that rests on…

Five minutesGetting assessed and diagnosedCoreQur’an 21:83

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