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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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Shame remove filterMy husband or wife remove filterBoth of us together remove filterClear all
How long you have
A minute 1Twenty minutes 1
Who it is written for · My husband or wife
A practitioner 7Someone I care about 6My husband or wife 2Me 1
Where you are right now
Coping, mostly 1Getting ready for something 1
On your own, or with someone · Both of us together
Both of us together 2Involves someone else 2On my own 1
Theme · Shame
Emotions as signals 11Feelings and focus 10Treatment and medication 4Growing empathy 4Equanimity and perspective 3What ADHD actually is 2Systems for daily life 2Get started 2When you go numb 2Practising under provocation 2Shame 2The moment before you snap 2Bringing the future closer 2Your nervous system 1What anger actually is 1Use your strengths 1Your sense of time 1Remembering to do it 1Choosing your response 1

When someone tells you they have failed, the most useful thing you can do is nothing clever. Let your face stay soft and keep looking at them.

Shame is braced for disgust, so it reads your face before it hears your words. A quick reassurance can even land as a rush to move on. Slower is…

A minuteShameEmotionally focusedQur’an 93:3

A friend or a counsellor telling you that you are not a monster helps, and it only takes you so far. The shame usually sits with one particular person, and it eases most when that person hears the thing and stays.

So aim a disclosure carefully rather than widely. Choose the person the shame is actually about, pick a moment with room in it, and say the small…

Twenty minutesShameEmotionally focusedQur’an 66:8

Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.