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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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7 practices
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How long you have
A minute 3Five minutes 1Longer 3
Who it is written for · Me
A practitioner 8Me 7My husband or wife 4Someone I care about 3
Where you are right now
Coping, mostly 5Struggling right now 2
On your own, or with someone · Both of us together
On my own 20Both of us together 7Involves someone else 7
Theme · Growing empathy
Medication and how it works 26Getting assessed and diagnosed 18Systems for daily life 15Feelings and focus 14Emotions as signals 7Practising under provocation 7Growing empathy 7Treatment and medication 6Being seen and judged 5Bringing the future closer 5Equanimity and perspective 4Your sense of time 3What anger actually is 3Screens and attention 3Facing it a step at a time 3What ADHD actually is 2Get started 2Touch and bodywork 2Cool the body first 2Moving your body 2The moment before you snap 2Grounding and settling 2Your nervous system 1Righteous anger and perfectionism 1Obsessions and compulsions 1When everything feels flat 1The fear underneath anger 1Shame 1Use your strengths 1Choosing your response 1
Approach
Body based 4Medical and treatment 3
When
Any ordinary day 6After a row 1

You can drop the neuroscience and keep the instruction. Look at the person's face, and at their eyes in particular, and let what you see land on you.

The advice does not need a mechanism to be worth following. Look at the person while they are speaking instead of at your own next sentence. Let…

A minuteGrowing empathyBody basedQur’an 28:23

When someone is telling you something hard, quietly let your body come closer to theirs. Similar posture, similar pace, your voice at their volume rather than your own.

Do it lightly. This is not an impression, and if it looks like one it will land as mockery. A small shift is plenty: leaning in when they lean in,…

A minuteGrowing empathyBody basedQur’an 2:263

You can feel for the child in front of you and still keep the consequence you set. Being moved was never meant to be the thing that decides.

It happens to everybody. You are firm, then you see the crumpled face, something turns over in you, and the consequence quietly disappears. What the…

A minuteGrowing empathyBody basedQur’an 2:220

The thing worth admitting is not that you were angry. It is what you were frightened of underneath it: being made a fool of, being left, being counted as useless.

Anger is the easy half to say and it rarely lands well. The fear underneath is harder to say and it is the part that gets you heard. One sentence…

Five minutesGrowing empathyMedical and treatmentQur’an 17:24

Two people who spend time in step really do become more attuned. Nothing passes between your brains while it happens, though, so put the hours in rather than waiting for the wiring.

The phrase about brains wiring together is a picture, and a lovely one. What is actually available to you is ordinary: the same room, the same walk…

LongerGrowing empathyBody basedQur’an 7:156

Closeness arrives much faster in a small group that keeps meeting than in a wide circle you see now and then. If you want to feel less alone, pick the small thing that repeats.

Six people who show up every Tuesday and say something real will know each other within a couple of months. Sixty acquaintances will not. It does not…

LongerGrowing empathyMedical and treatmentQur’an 90:17

There is a particular relief in hearing a room of strangers admit the same frightened thing you have never said aloud. It is why groups reach people that advice does not.

You go in expecting contempt. What comes back is usually recognition, along with a few nods from people who have been ruder to their families than…

LongerGrowing empathyMedical and treatmentQur’an 49:13

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