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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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128 practices
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Area
Focus, starting, and ADHD 73Anger 22Low mood and hard feelings 13Worry and anxiety 11Your body 9
How long you have
A minute 23Five minutes 46Twenty minutes 48Longer 11
Who it is written for · Someone I care about
A practitioner 237Me 148Someone I care about 128My husband or wife 54
Where you are right now
Coping, mostly 82Struggling right now 30Getting ready for something 16
On your own, or with someone · Both of us together
On my own 1061Involves someone else 381Both of us together 128
Theme
Medication and how it works 23Systems for daily life 15Reading, numbers and learning differences 12When anger turns to harm 7Shame 6The cost of avoiding 5Touch and bodywork 4Emotions as signals 4Screens and attention 4Bringing the future closer 4What anger actually is 3Your sense of time 3Treatment and medication 3Facing it a step at a time 3When everything feels flat 3Growing empathy 3Equanimity and perspective 2Obsessions and compulsions 2Moving your body 2Cool the body first 2What ADHD actually is 2Feelings and focus 2Grounding and settling 2Righteous anger and perfectionism 1Your nervous system 1Exercise, food and other supports 1Making it stick 1Getting assessed and diagnosed 1Get started 1The moment before you snap 1Being seen and judged 1The fear underneath anger 1Remembering to do it 1Structure and routine 1What you are actually defending 1
Approach
Medical and treatment 33ADHD skills 30Core 27CBT 13Body based 8Emotionally focused 6Trauma informed 4Parts work 3Mindfulness 3Narrative 1
When
Any ordinary day 89Under stress 15After a row 11Coming and going 6In a change 5When apart 2

Do not write off simply sitting with someone. When researchers looked into why dummy treatments helped, one of the things they kept finding was half an hour of a person's full attention.

Thirty minutes of someone listening properly to your difficulties is not filler around the real treatment. Across the talking therapies, who the…

Twenty minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 3:159

With children, practise the hard social moment rather than explaining it. Act out asking to join a game, or losing one, a few times at home where nothing is at stake.

Keep it light and short, let them play both parts, and be the one who gets it wrong sometimes so it does not feel like a test. Pick the situation…

Five minutesWhat ADHD actually isADHD skillsQur’an 20:115

Relationships take a lot of the strain here, and the usual shape is one person quietly carrying all the planning while the other feels constantly told off. Both halves are worth naming out loud before resentment sets hard.

The practical work is splitting the load by what each of you is actually good at rather than down the middle, and putting the shared admin somewhere…

Twenty minutesWhat ADHD actually isADHD skillsQur’an 11:118

Your family had its own rules about anger, quite apart from anything cultural. Those are the ones that shaped you, and they can be renegotiated.

Name two of them plainly. Nobody leaves the table. Whoever shouts loudest wins. We do not mention it the next day. Then ask which you still want.…

Twenty minutesWhat anger actually isCoreQur’an 2:263

Expect the fear underneath to be denied, and do not push against the denial. This idea has to be worked in gently rather than argued in.

Coming at somebody head on with what they are defending sets off exactly the threat response you were hoping to treat. Small, low pressure versions…

LongerWhat anger actually isCoreQur’an 68:48

You will not get the honest version in one go. Ask, let it be refused, carry on with something else, then come back to it later in the same conversation.

A defended story does not collapse, it wears down. Each pass takes a little off it, and the person needs the gaps in between to do the actual…

LongerWhat anger actually isCoreQur’an 15:47

Understanding an idea is not the same as being changed by it. The explaining is soil preparation, and the crop comes later.

Somebody can follow the whole argument about respect and self-acceptance, agree warmly with all of it, and lose their temper the same way that…

LongerWhat you are actually defendingCoreQur’an 22:46

Connection settles people, but the right amount of it varies enormously. Some settle with a house full of family and some with one person and no talking at all.

If closeness costs you something, plan around that rather than pushing through. Shorter visits, sitting side by side instead of face to face, a walk…

Twenty minutesYour nervous systemBody basedQur’an 2:260

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