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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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Emotions as signals remove filterBoth of us together remove filterAfter a row remove filterClear all
Who it is written for
A practitioner 2Me 2My husband or wife 2
Where you are right now
Struggling right now 1Coping, mostly 1
On your own, or with someone · Both of us together
Involves someone else 4On my own 3Both of us together 2
Theme · Emotions as signals
Feelings and focus 8Equanimity and perspective 4What anger actually is 3Cool the body first 3Growing empathy 2The cost of avoiding 2The moment before you snap 2When you go numb 2Emotions as signals 2When anger turns to harm 1Use your strengths 1Your sense of time 1Remembering to do it 1Facing it a step at a time 1Treatment and medication 1
When · After a row
Any ordinary day 5When apart 3After a row 2Under stress 1

There is a kind of anger that floods a room and a kind that arrives with a request inside it. The second one gets answered.

The difference is audible before it is anything else: the voice steadier, the sentence shorter, an actual ask at the end of it. I am angry, and what…

Five minutesEmotions as signalsEmotionally focusedQur’an 20:25

Say the frightened thing rather than the sharp thing. It is far more exposing and it is the only version that tends to get a kind reply.

Under most rows sits something like I think there is something wrong with me, or I have already lost you and I am pretending I have not. Sharp words…

Five minutesEmotions as signalsEmotionally focusedQur’an 9:118

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