Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

2 practices

Twenty minutes Both of us together Coming and going Clear all

Area

Focus, starting, and ADHD 1 Low mood and hard feelings 1

How long you have · Twenty minutes

A minute 2 Five minutes 10 Twenty minutes 2

Who it is written for

A practitioner 2 My husband or wife 1 Me 1

On your own, or with someone · Both of us together

On my own 9 Involves someone else 5 Both of us together 2

Theme

Shame 1 Getting assessed and diagnosed 1

Approach

ADHD skills 1 Emotionally focused 1

When · Coming and going

Any ordinary day 59 After a row 8 Under stress 5 In a change 2 Coming and going 2

If someone is about to send off a saliva kit to fill in the family history they never had, have a conversation first. These tests hand back more than health information, and they hand it back with nobody in the room.

A father who is not the father, a sibling nobody mentioned, a donor conception no one planned to explain: these arrive by email on an ordinary…

Twenty minutesGetting assessed and diagnosedADHD skillsQur’an 42:38

A friend or a counsellor telling you that you are not a monster helps, and it only takes you so far. The shame usually sits with one particular person, and it eases most when that person hears the thing and stays.

So aim a disclosure carefully rather than widely. Choose the person the shame is actually about, pick a moment with room in it, and say the small…

Twenty minutesShameEmotionally focusedQur’an 66:8

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