Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

7 practices

Worry and anxiety Twenty minutes Both of us together Clear all

Area · Worry and anxiety

Focus, starting, and ADHD 50 Anger 7 Worry and anxiety 7 Low mood and hard feelings 6 Your body 6

How long you have · Twenty minutes

A minute 3 Five minutes 4 Twenty minutes 7 Longer 2

Who it is written for

A practitioner 7 Someone I care about 6 Me 2

Where you are right now

Coping, mostly 5 Struggling right now 1 Getting ready for something 1

On your own, or with someone · Both of us together

Involves someone else 18 On my own 13 Both of us together 7

Theme

The cost of avoiding 5 Being seen and judged 1 Facing it a step at a time 1

Approach

CBT 6 Narrative 1

When

Any ordinary day 4 After a row 2 Under stress 1

With an older teenager the pull is often not fear at all. The day at home is better: sleep, screens, and friends who are also not going.

Anxiety work goes nowhere against this, because there is little anxiety left to work on. What changes it is the shape of the day, with the good…

Twenty minutesThe cost of avoidingCBTQur’an 53:39

Where a child is not attending, the adults are often already cross with each other. That argument has to be parked before any plan will hold.

Home thinks the school did not act. The school thinks home is not firm. Both usually have a point, and neither point can be settled quickly enough to…

Twenty minutesThe cost of avoidingCBTQur’an 11:112

Try saying it out loud: we can leave who was at fault for another day and both work on getting her back in. Most people accept that offer if nobody has to admit anything.

Grievances between families and schools rarely resolve on the timeline a child needs. Naming a goal that sits above the dispute lets everyone move…

Twenty minutesThe cost of avoidingCBTQur’an 2:197

You cannot outbid a bedroom with unlimited gaming and a free afternoon. Free access has to shrink before an earned version means anything at all.

With an older teenager this goes better as a conversation about arrangements than about character: the wifi and the console sit behind the school…

Twenty minutesThe cost of avoidingCBTQur’an 6:35

A chart imposed on a fifteen year old will be beaten, ignored or fought. Agree the terms with them instead, in a conversation where they can genuinely change something.

Ask what they think would help, what they would want in return, and what feels unfair about the current version. You are not handing over the goal,…

Twenty minutesThe cost of avoidingCBTQur’an 53:28

Sometimes the help you need is not insight. It is someone sitting with you while you sort out what actually happened this week and which bit of it mattered.

When anxiety is running at full speed, everything arrives at the same volume and nothing can be ranked. A bad week becomes one undifferentiated bad…

Twenty minutesBeing seen and judgedNarrativeQur’an 15:97

Run it in your head first, then act it out with someone safe, then do it for real. It is a preseason, and nobody thinks the preseason is cheating.

Each round adds a little pressure while help is still to hand. Imagining it stirs the fear enough to show whether your plan holds up. Acting it out…

Twenty minutesFacing it a step at a timeCBTQur’an 92:7

There is more about worry and anxiety than the practices: the worry and anxiety area has the themes and the courses too.