Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Narrowed down
4 practicesHow long you have
Who it is written for
On your own, or with someone · Involves someone else
Theme · Affection and touch
What anger actually is 13Screens and attention 12Reading, numbers and learning differences 6Affection and touch 4Knowing your partner 4The moment before you snap 4Choosing your response 3Getting assessed and diagnosed 3Treatment and medication 3Rituals of connection 3Righteous anger and perfectionism 3What you are actually defending 2Shared spiritual life 2Equanimity and perspective 2Answering bids 2The fear underneath anger 2Gratitude 1Making it stick 1Repair after rupture 1
Approach · Core
Hold their hand while you talk about something completely ordinary.
Touch with no request attached is a language of safety all its own.
When they are upset, move physically closer before you say anything.
Nearness often comforts before any words can, and asks nothing in return.
Make them laugh once today, on purpose.
Shared lightness is not frivolous; it is a thread that keeps two people close.
Do one small, slightly ridiculous thing together.
A shared bit of play refreshes a couple more than another serious conversation can.
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