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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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2 practices
Involves someone else remove filterDBT skills remove filterAfter a row remove filterClear all
Area
Yourself and your limits 1Low mood and hard feelings 1
How long you have
A minute 1Five minutes 1
Who it is written for
Me 2A practitioner 1Someone I care about 1
On your own, or with someone · Involves someone else
Involves someone else 2On my own 2
Theme
Tolerate distress 1Validate yourself and others 1
Approach · DBT skills
Gottman 18Emotionally focused 15Core 13ADHD skills 12CBT 7DBT skills 2Body based 1Mindfulness 1
When · After a row
Any ordinary day 4Coming and going 2After a row 2

A calming skill handed over at the wrong moment reads as your anger is not welcome here. For someone taught as a child that their anger was unacceptable, that is the old prohibition arriving again in kinder clothes.

Let the anger be seen first. Say that it makes sense, that there is a reason for it, and only then offer anything that settles the body. The order…

Five minutesTolerate distressDBT skillsQur’an 2:45

Before you fix or argue, validate: that makes sense, I can see why you feel that. It cools the heat.

People calm down when they feel understood, not corrected. Understanding first, solutions later.

A minuteValidate yourself and othersDBT skillsQur’an 41:34

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