Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
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Who it is written for · My husband or wife
On your own, or with someone · Involves someone else
Theme · Fondness and admiration
Staying regulated in conflict 24Knowing your partner 15Affection and touch 13Listening and understanding 12Rebuilding trust 12Repair after rupture 11Answering bids 11Rituals of connection 11Shared spiritual life 10Emotions as signals 7Remembering to do it 4What anger actually is 4Your nervous system 3Gratitude 2Your sense of time 2Shame 2The moment before you snap 2What you are actually defending 2Fondness and admiration 2Equanimity and perspective 2Bringing the future closer 2When you go numb 1Growing empathy 1Practising under provocation 1Systems for daily life 1Treatment and medication 1Choosing your response 1Feelings and focus 1
Counter contempt by building a steady culture of appreciation: express thanks, fondness, and respect often.
Contempt grows where appreciation is missing. Regular, sincere praise is the long-term antidote.
Do not just think a kind thought about your partner. Say it out loud, naming the trait and a real moment.
I love how gentle you were with the kids today. Spoken admiration builds a loving base; unspoken does not.
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