Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

5 practices

Growing empathy Involves someone else Any ordinary day Clear all

How long you have

Five minutes 2 Twenty minutes 3

Who it is written for

A practitioner 5 Me 5 Someone I care about 1 My husband or wife 1

On your own, or with someone · Involves someone else

On my own 17 Both of us together 7 Involves someone else 5

Theme · Growing empathy

Medication and how it works 53 Systems for daily life 26 The cost of avoiding 20 Moving your body 17 Exercise, food and other supports 13 Knowing your partner 12 Screens and attention 12 What ADHD actually is 10 Food, caffeine and fuel 10 Breaking the worry loop 9 Listening and understanding 9 Shared spiritual life 9 Treatment and medication 8 Bringing the future closer 8 Structure and routine 8 Feelings and focus 8 Your sense of time 8 The moment before you snap 7 Rituals of connection 7 What worry does 7 Breathing 7 Facing it a step at a time 7 Affection and touch 6 Get started 6 Cool the body first 6 Growing empathy 5 Your nervous system 5 Getting assessed and diagnosed 5 Reading, numbers and learning differences 5 When everything feels flat 4 When you use something to cope 4 Equanimity and perspective 4 Posture and how you carry yourself 4 Rebuilding trust 4 Touch and bodywork 4 Treatment and medication 4 What anger actually is 4 Making it stick 3 Remembering to do it 3 Being seen and judged 3 Shame and stigma 3 Choosing your response 3 Answering bids 2 Righteous anger and perfectionism 2 Panic and the body 2 Obsessions and compulsions 2 Fondness and admiration 2 Emotions as signals 2 Staying regulated in conflict 2 Tolerate distress 2 Grounding and settling 2 Gratitude 2 Repair after rupture 1 Feeling from the inside 1 Rest and pacing 1 Shame 1

Approach

Medical and treatment 4 CBT 1

When · Any ordinary day

Any ordinary day 5 When apart 1 Under stress 1

Telling somebody one thing you are quietly embarrassed about will bring you closer than a month of pleasant conversation.

It does not have to be dramatic. The worry you have never said out loud, the mistake you still think about at night, the thing you are no good at.…

Five minutesGrowing empathyMedical and treatmentQur’an 28:23

If it really is that you feel too much for people, the useful move is not more feeling. It is learning to say no while still meaning them well.

Naming your softness as something that gets used is what makes a limit bearable to set. You are not becoming colder. You are stopping the slow build…

Five minutesGrowing empathyCBTQur’an 16:90

You cannot decide to feel closer to people. You can decide to eat with them, walk with them, sit near them and say one true thing, and the closeness tends to follow.

The chemistry gets talked about a great deal and it is the least useful part. What you can act on is the diary: a standing meal with someone, a hand…

Twenty minutesGrowing empathyMedical and treatmentQur’an 30:21

Four ordinary things take the edge off a hot temper: being touched by someone you trust, eating with people, moving your body hard enough to breathe, and sitting still for a few minutes a day.

None of them are about anger directly, which is the point. Exercise lowers what you are already carrying before the argument starts. A shared meal…

Twenty minutesGrowing empathyMedical and treatmentQur’an 76:8

If eating together helps, it is the together that is helping. Being full is not a route to feeling close, and treating it as one goes wrong quickly for some people.

Sit down with somebody once a week and eat whatever you were going to eat anyway. That is the whole practice. If you notice yourself reaching for…

Twenty minutesGrowing empathyMedical and treatmentQur’an 90:14

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