Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
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On your own, or with someone · Involves someone else
Theme · Fondness and admiration
Staying regulated in conflict 14Affection and touch 12Systems for daily life 10The cost of avoiding 9Answering bids 9Repair after rupture 7Grounding and settling 7Listening and understanding 7Medication and how it works 7The moment before you snap 5Treatment and medication 5Knowing your partner 5Breathing 4Structure and routine 4Rituals of connection 4Posture and how you carry yourself 3Rebuilding trust 3Moving your body 3Equanimity and perspective 2Choosing your response 2Cool the body first 2Food, caffeine and fuel 2Emotions as signals 2Fondness and admiration 2Gratitude 2Making it stick 2When everything feels flat 2Practising under provocation 2Your sense of time 2Treatment and medication 2What anger actually is 2Shared spiritual life 1Safety and grounding 1Exercise, food and other supports 1Tolerate distress 1Touch and bodywork 1Obsessions and compulsions 1Ask and say no well 1Validate yourself and others 1The fear underneath anger 1What you are actually defending 1Breaking the worry loop 1Your nervous system 1Help someone grieving 1Getting assessed and diagnosed 1Get started 1Feelings and focus 1Feeling from the inside 1Bringing the future closer 1Screens and attention 1Being seen and judged 1Shame and stigma 1
Counter contempt by building a steady culture of appreciation: express thanks, fondness, and respect often.
Contempt grows where appreciation is missing. Regular, sincere praise is the long-term antidote.
Do not just think a kind thought about your partner. Say it out loud, naming the trait and a real moment.
I love how gentle you were with the kids today. Spoken admiration builds a loving base; unspoken does not.
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