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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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Choosing your response remove filterCoping, mostly remove filterInvolves someone else remove filterClear all
How long you have
A minute 1Five minutes 2
Who it is written for
Me 3Someone I care about 3A practitioner 3
Where you are right now · Coping, mostly
Getting ready for something 3Coping, mostly 3Struggling right now 1
On your own, or with someone · Involves someone else
On my own 41Involves someone else 3
Theme · Choosing your response
Medication and how it works 34Systems for daily life 24Staying regulated in conflict 24The cost of avoiding 20Moving your body 16Knowing your partner 15Rebuilding trust 14Affection and touch 13Exercise, food and other supports 13Screens and attention 12Listening and understanding 12Repair after rupture 11Answering bids 11Rituals of connection 11Shared spiritual life 10Feelings and focus 8Bringing the future closer 8Your nervous system 8What anger actually is 8Getting assessed and diagnosed 7Treatment and medication 7What ADHD actually is 7Breaking the worry loop 7Structure and routine 7Your sense of time 7Growing empathy 6What worry does 6Equanimity and perspective 6Food, caffeine and fuel 5Emotions as signals 5Get started 5Grounding and settling 4When everything feels flat 4Treatment and medication 4When you use something to cope 4Breathing 4Righteous anger and perfectionism 3The moment before you snap 3Choosing your response 3Facing it a step at a time 3Fondness and admiration 2Touch and bodywork 2Shame and stigma 2What you are actually defending 2Remembering to do it 2Gratitude 2Reading, numbers and learning differences 2Help someone grieving 2Being seen and judged 2Tolerate distress 2Ask and say no well 2Panic and the body 2The fear underneath anger 2Obsessions and compulsions 2Practising under provocation 1Safety and grounding 1Posture and how you carry yourself 1Validate yourself and others 1Cool the body first 1Shame 1
Approach
CBT 2Core 1
When
After a row 2Under stress 1

Do not only correct the thought, correct the sentence. Rather than do not shout at me, try can you take those off, I want to talk to you.

Telling yourself to stay calm gives you nothing to do, and the ready-made sharp line is still the only thing in your mouth. A plain request gives all…

A minuteChoosing your responseCoreQur’an 33:70

You can tell someone they have hurt you without your voice showing it. The message and the heat come apart, and it is usually the heat that stops the message being heard.

Worth saying, because plenty of people believe the only options are swallowing it or letting it out. There is a third, which is saying the whole hard…

Five minutesChoosing your responseCBTQur’an 17:53

Under the anger there is usually something you wanted and did not get, or something you are afraid of losing. Say that, and you have handed the other person something they can actually do.

"You never help" gives someone a charge to deny. "I needed you to take the kids for an hour and I was too proud to ask" gives them a job. The second…

Five minutesChoosing your responseCBTQur’an 5:8

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