Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
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On your own, or with someone · Involves someone else
Theme · Fondness and admiration
Medication and how it works 34Staying regulated in conflict 24Systems for daily life 24The cost of avoiding 20Moving your body 16Knowing your partner 15Rebuilding trust 14Affection and touch 13Exercise, food and other supports 13Screens and attention 12Listening and understanding 12Repair after rupture 11Answering bids 11Rituals of connection 11Shared spiritual life 10What anger actually is 8Feelings and focus 8Your nervous system 8Bringing the future closer 8Treatment and medication 7What ADHD actually is 7Structure and routine 7Getting assessed and diagnosed 7Your sense of time 7Breaking the worry loop 7Equanimity and perspective 6Growing empathy 6What worry does 6Food, caffeine and fuel 5Get started 5Emotions as signals 5Treatment and medication 4Grounding and settling 4Breathing 4When everything feels flat 4When you use something to cope 4Facing it a step at a time 3The moment before you snap 3Choosing your response 3Righteous anger and perfectionism 3What you are actually defending 2Fondness and admiration 2Touch and bodywork 2Being seen and judged 2Ask and say no well 2Remembering to do it 2Panic and the body 2Shame and stigma 2Reading, numbers and learning differences 2Help someone grieving 2Tolerate distress 2Obsessions and compulsions 2Gratitude 2The fear underneath anger 2Practising under provocation 1Posture and how you carry yourself 1Safety and grounding 1Shame 1Validate yourself and others 1Cool the body first 1
Counter contempt by building a steady culture of appreciation: express thanks, fondness, and respect often.
Contempt grows where appreciation is missing. Regular, sincere praise is the long-term antidote.
Do not just think a kind thought about your partner. Say it out loud, naming the trait and a real moment.
I love how gentle you were with the kids today. Spoken admiration builds a loving base; unspoken does not.
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