Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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Theme · When everything feels flat
Medication and how it works 61Systems for daily life 37The cost of avoiding 36Screens and attention 26Staying regulated in conflict 24Moving your body 21Treatment and medication 20Knowing your partner 15Exercise, food and other supports 15Rebuilding trust 14Affection and touch 13Feelings and focus 13What ADHD actually is 13What anger actually is 13Listening and understanding 12Your sense of time 11Rituals of connection 11Your nervous system 11Breaking the worry loop 11Answering bids 11Repair after rupture 11Facing it a step at a time 10The moment before you snap 10Structure and routine 10What worry does 10Shared spiritual life 10Food, caffeine and fuel 10Getting assessed and diagnosed 10Grounding and settling 9Bringing the future closer 9Equanimity and perspective 7When everything feels flat 7Get started 7Treatment and medication 7Growing empathy 7Emotions as signals 7Cool the body first 7Choosing your response 7Breathing 7Remembering to do it 6Reading, numbers and learning differences 6Posture and how you carry yourself 5Shame and stigma 5When you use something to cope 5Tolerate distress 4Touch and bodywork 4Making it stick 3Practising under provocation 3Being seen and judged 3Righteous anger and perfectionism 3Panic and the body 3Obsessions and compulsions 3The fear underneath anger 2What you are actually defending 2Help someone grieving 2Fondness and admiration 2Shame 2Gratitude 2Rest and pacing 2Feeling from the inside 2Ask and say no well 2When you go numb 1Validate yourself and others 1Safety and grounding 1Living with uncertainty 1
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You can say what an SSRI does in one sentence. It blocks the doorway that carries serotonin back out of the gap between two nerve cells, so more of it stays there for longer and is likelier to be picked up.

Worth being able to say plainly, because most people are carrying something vaguer and more frightening than that. It also sets a fair expectation.…

A minuteWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 8:24

Serotonin syndrome comes from stacking, and the second agent is usually something nobody thought to mention: a migraine tablet, a cough medicine, a herbal remedy for low mood.

Triptans, tramadol, dextromethorphan, linezolid and St John's wort all count, as do other antidepressants. Someone who mentions in passing that they…

A minuteWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 12:87

The standing side-effect list is sexual difficulty, less appetite, an unsettled stomach, disturbed sleep and headache. Sexual side effects are common, and almost nobody raises them unprompted.

So ask directly, and ask about sleep while you are there. People do not usually announce these things. They quietly stop taking the tablet and say…

Five minutesWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 6:125

Match the tablet to the person rather than to the diagnosis. For someone flattened and slowed who has said clearly that they will not accept sexual side effects, paroxetine is close to the worst choice available.

It is the most sedating in the class, the least activating, and carries a high risk of exactly the effect they ruled out, with weight gain and the…

Five minutesWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 41:39

If you are the therapist, hand the prescriber the profile and leave them the pick. What you hold that they do not is what this person is like across a week, and what they will absolutely not tolerate.

So write those two things down and send them: the presentation, in plain description rather than jargon, and the non-negotiables. Not a drug name.…

Five minutesWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 16:127

If you know something about a person's history that the prescriber may not, say it. A past eating disorder or a single seizure can change what is safe to prescribe.

Bupropion lowers the seizure threshold, and in someone who is purging, restricting or very underweight that risk climbs meaningfully. The therapist…

Five minutesWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 15:88

If a treatment reliably produces strange sensations, describe them beforehand. Expected strangeness is far easier to sit through than strangeness that arrives unannounced.

With esketamine, feeling oddly detached from your body or the room is the drug doing what it does, not a sign of harm, and it usually clears within a…

Five minutesWhen everything feels flatMedical and treatmentQur’an 6:125

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