Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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When you go numb Involves someone else Clear all

Who it is written for

My husband or wife 1 Me 1 A practitioner 1

On your own, or with someone · Involves someone else

On my own 4 Both of us together 2 Involves someone else 1

Theme · When you go numb

Medication and how it works 61 Systems for daily life 37 The cost of avoiding 36 Screens and attention 26 Staying regulated in conflict 24 Moving your body 21 Treatment and medication 20 Exercise, food and other supports 15 Knowing your partner 15 Rebuilding trust 14 Affection and touch 13 Feelings and focus 13 What ADHD actually is 13 What anger actually is 13 Listening and understanding 12 Repair after rupture 11 Your nervous system 11 Breaking the worry loop 11 Answering bids 11 Your sense of time 11 Rituals of connection 11 Facing it a step at a time 10 The moment before you snap 10 Getting assessed and diagnosed 10 Structure and routine 10 Food, caffeine and fuel 10 Shared spiritual life 10 What worry does 10 Grounding and settling 9 Bringing the future closer 9 Emotions as signals 7 Get started 7 Breathing 7 Equanimity and perspective 7 Choosing your response 7 Cool the body first 7 Treatment and medication 7 Growing empathy 7 When everything feels flat 7 Reading, numbers and learning differences 6 Remembering to do it 6 When you use something to cope 5 Posture and how you carry yourself 5 Shame and stigma 5 Touch and bodywork 4 Tolerate distress 4 Practising under provocation 3 Righteous anger and perfectionism 3 Panic and the body 3 Obsessions and compulsions 3 Making it stick 3 Being seen and judged 3 What you are actually defending 2 Rest and pacing 2 Ask and say no well 2 The fear underneath anger 2 Fondness and admiration 2 Gratitude 2 Feeling from the inside 2 Shame 2 Help someone grieving 2 Validate yourself and others 1 Living with uncertainty 1 Safety and grounding 1 When you go numb 1

Pulling back makes you harder to reach, which makes people give up on reaching, which looks like proof that nobody was coming. The loop closes itself.

Being told to open up rarely breaks it, because opening up in one go is exactly the risk the whole strategy exists to prevent. What breaks it is…

Five minutesWhen you go numbEmotionally focusedQur’an 39:23

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