Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

5 practices

Shame and stigma Involves someone else Clear all

How long you have

A minute 1 Five minutes 2 Twenty minutes 2

Who it is written for

Someone I care about 5 A practitioner 5

Where you are right now

Coping, mostly 2 Struggling right now 2 Getting ready for something 1

On your own, or with someone · Involves someone else

On my own 30 Involves someone else 5

Theme · Shame and stigma

Medication and how it works 61 Systems for daily life 37 The cost of avoiding 36 Screens and attention 26 Staying regulated in conflict 24 Moving your body 21 Treatment and medication 20 Knowing your partner 15 Exercise, food and other supports 15 Rebuilding trust 14 Affection and touch 13 Feelings and focus 13 What ADHD actually is 13 What anger actually is 13 Listening and understanding 12 Your sense of time 11 Rituals of connection 11 Your nervous system 11 Breaking the worry loop 11 Answering bids 11 Repair after rupture 11 Facing it a step at a time 10 The moment before you snap 10 Structure and routine 10 What worry does 10 Shared spiritual life 10 Food, caffeine and fuel 10 Getting assessed and diagnosed 10 Grounding and settling 9 Bringing the future closer 9 Equanimity and perspective 7 When everything feels flat 7 Get started 7 Treatment and medication 7 Growing empathy 7 Emotions as signals 7 Cool the body first 7 Choosing your response 7 Breathing 7 Remembering to do it 6 Reading, numbers and learning differences 6 Posture and how you carry yourself 5 Shame and stigma 5 When you use something to cope 5 Tolerate distress 4 Touch and bodywork 4 Making it stick 3 Practising under provocation 3 Being seen and judged 3 Righteous anger and perfectionism 3 Panic and the body 3 Obsessions and compulsions 3 The fear underneath anger 2 What you are actually defending 2 Help someone grieving 2 Fondness and admiration 2 Shame 2 Gratitude 2 Rest and pacing 2 Feeling from the inside 2 Ask and say no well 2 When you go numb 1 Validate yourself and others 1 Safety and grounding 1 Living with uncertainty 1

When

Any ordinary day 3 Under stress 2

Before you offer anyone the upside of their ADHD, say the hard part out loud first. One patient's answer to being told it was a gift was to ask where he could return it.

A reframe offered too early does not sound hopeful, it sounds like you were not listening. Name the cost in specifics, the job that went, the…

A minuteShame and stigmaADHD skillsQur’an 20:44

Before you explain anything about ADHD to someone, ask what they already think it is. What they tell you decides what your explanation can land on.

People arrive with family stories, cultural rules about mental health and firm views about medication, and none of it shows up unless you invite it.…

Five minutesShame and stigmaADHD skillsQur’an 20:44

By the time somebody comes for an assessment, the poor opinion of themselves is usually decades old. Assume it is there even when the person in front of you is visibly doing well.

It rarely arrives as a complaint. It shows up as apologising for taking up your time, as brushing off achievements, as a joke about being useless…

Five minutesShame and stigmaADHD skillsQur’an 6:54

When a young person with ADHD goes through a first breakup or loses a friendship group, stay closer than usual. Do not wait for the next arranged contact.

Rejection lands harder here, and impulsivity shortens the gap between feeling unbearable and acting on it. A short unannounced check in, a lift…

Twenty minutesShame and stigmaADHD skillsQur’an 39:53

With children, acting a situation out teaches far more than talking about it. Play the scene, swap roles, get it wrong, do it again.

Explaining social rules to a child who missed them leans on the same steady attention that let them slip past in the first place. Rehearsal skips…

Twenty minutesShame and stigmaADHD skillsQur’an 2:83

Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.