Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Narrowed down
3 practicesHow long you have
Theme · Question the thought
What anger actually is 83The fear underneath anger 50Choosing your response 44The moment before you snap 35Equanimity and perspective 22Making it stick 15Reading, numbers and learning differences 14Righteous anger and perfectionism 13Staying regulated in conflict 12What you are actually defending 12Getting assessed and diagnosed 7When anger turns to harm 7Screens and attention 6Answering bids 5Fondness and admiration 5Cool the body first 5Repair after rupture 4Gratitude 4Question the thought 3Rituals of connection 2Knowing your partner 2Act on your values 2Shared spiritual life 2Treatment and medication 2Working with anger 2Affection and touch 1
Take the thought that is upsetting you and ask: what is another way to read this?
The event is fixed; the meaning is not. A second reading often fits the facts and hurts less.
Notice when you have jumped to the worst story, and hold it as a guess, not a fact.
They meant to hurt me, this always happens. Label these as theories, then look for evidence.
Name one hard thing today and ask what it might be growing in you: patience, humility, nearness to God.
Not denying the difficulty. Finding the meaning inside it that makes it bearable.
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.