Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Narrowed down
4 practicesWho it is written for
On your own, or with someone · On my own
Theme · Knowing your partner
Approach · Gottman
Ask your spouse what is weighing on them this week, and remember the answer.
Not how was your day. What is heavy right now. Then carry a corner of it in your mind.
Notice one way your spouse has changed lately, and let your picture of them catch up.
People keep becoming someone new. Ask about the new thing rather than assuming the old.
Learn the one part of your spouse's day that drains them most, and lighten it if you can.
The commute, the boss, the bedtime hour. Know the pinch point, then ease it by a little.
Keep in mind one small thing that matters to your spouse, and act on it unprompted.
The tea they like, the worry they mentioned, the date they dread. Remember, then show it.
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