Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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6 practices

Anger, alcohol and the body On my own Any ordinary day Clear all

How long you have

A minute 1 Five minutes 1 Twenty minutes 2 Longer 2

Who it is written for

Me 6 A practitioner 6 Someone I care about 6

Where you are right now

Coping, mostly 5 Getting ready for something 1

Theme · Anger, alcohol and the body

Your nervous system 81 Medication and how it works 69 Get started 61 Systems for daily life 52 What anger actually is 50 Your sense of time 48 Food, caffeine and fuel 43 The moment before you snap 42 Choosing your response 41 Exercise, food and other supports 40 Moving your body 37 What ADHD actually is 35 Treatment and medication 34 Equanimity and perspective 33 Bringing the future closer 33 Grounding and settling 31 The fear underneath anger 30 When everything feels flat 29 Screens and attention 28 Touch and bodywork 27 Getting assessed and diagnosed 25 Structure and routine 25 Practising under provocation 24 Feelings and focus 22 Shame and stigma 22 Making it stick 20 What worry does 19 Cool the body first 19 Treatment and medication 19 Being seen and judged 18 Growing empathy 17 Remembering to do it 17 Breathing 17 Feeling from the inside 15 When you use something to cope 15 What you are actually defending 13 Reading, numbers and learning differences 12 Fondness and admiration 12 Righteous anger and perfectionism 10 Answering bids 10 Tolerate distress 10 Obsessions and compulsions 10 Staying regulated in conflict 9 Use your strengths 8 Self-compassion 8 Knowing your partner 8 Gratitude 7 Breaking the worry loop 7 Shared spiritual life 7 Facing it a step at a time 7 Question the thought 6 Emotions as signals 6 Anger, alcohol and the body 6 Posture and how you carry yourself 5 Shame 4 Your worth is not conditional 3 When you go numb 3 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Living with uncertainty 3 When anger turns to harm 3 Work with your brain 2 Keep the bond 2 Get it out of your head 2 Find meaning 2 Act on your values 2 Meaning after harm 2 Face it gently 2 Rest and pacing 2 Repair after rupture 2 Your window of tolerance 1 Rebuilding trust 1 Panic and the body 1 Listen to the body 1 Safety and grounding 1 Listening and understanding 1 Care for yourself in loss 1 The cost of avoiding 1 Affection and touch 1

When · Any ordinary day

Any ordinary day 6 Under stress 1 After a row 1

You are right that the first drink takes the edge off. That is exactly what makes it hard, and pretending otherwise would only be untrue.

The calm is real at a small amount and it turns on you as the amount climbs, which is why the argument at eleven at night bears no resemblance to the…

A minuteAnger, alcohol and the bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:219

Alcohol does not add anger. It takes off the brake. Stimulants do the opposite job and press harder on the accelerator, and having both in you at once is the worst arrangement of the two.

What drink takes first is the part that holds you back, which is why nothing feels different from the inside. You are not angrier, there is simply…

Five minutesAnger, alcohol and the bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 4:43

Hormones are part of this for everyone, not only for men and not only in adolescence. If your flares seem to arrive with a rhythm, that rhythm is worth writing down.

Episodes that look random from close up often turn out to have a shape once there is a record of them: a point in a monthly cycle, a change of…

Twenty minutesAnger, alcohol and the bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 32:9

Anger has a chemistry of its own. There is nothing to pour down the sink and nobody to stop selling it to you, which is why letting it go feels like losing something rather than putting something down.

The lift is real. Heat, clarity, energy, a body that suddenly knows exactly what to do. Take that away and leave a gap where it was, and within a…

Twenty minutesAnger, alcohol and the bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 13:28

If drinking is anywhere in the picture, stopping will probably do more for your anger than any technique you could learn. That is not the interesting answer, it is just the one that moves the most.

Skills work at the edges of a hard moment. Alcohol removes the very part of you those skills run on, so you can practise beautifully on a Tuesday…

LongerAnger, alcohol and the bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 5:91

Sleep, food, illness and the run of stress you have been carrying set the height of your fuse before anything has even happened. Sort those out and you are simply a calmer person that week, with no insight required.

This is the cheapest work available and it is nearly always skipped, because it feels too obvious to count. Notice when your worst moments land: late…

LongerAnger, alcohol and the bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 78:9

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