Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Narrowed down
2 practicesWho it is written for
On your own, or with someone · On my own
Theme · Answering bids
The moment before you snap 30Cool the body first 30Grounding and settling 27Choosing your response 26Touch and bodywork 22Your nervous system 20What anger actually is 18The fear underneath anger 15Equanimity and perspective 14Tolerate distress 10Breathing 10Staying regulated in conflict 9Feelings and focus 9Feeling from the inside 8Practising under provocation 7Medication and how it works 7Moving your body 7Systems for daily life 6Bringing the future closer 6Making it stick 6Question the thought 5Food, caffeine and fuel 5Breaking the worry loop 5Shame 5What worry does 5When everything feels flat 4Get started 4What you are actually defending 4Letting it out safely 4Shame and stigma 4Treatment and medication 4Facing it a step at a time 4Calm the body 3Emotions as signals 3Growing empathy 3Let the wave come 3Name what you feel 3Obsessions and compulsions 3Posture and how you carry yourself 3Righteous anger and perfectionism 3Working with anger 3Your sense of time 2Screens and attention 2Safety and grounding 2Ride the urge 2Patience and trust 2Exercise, food and other supports 2Meaning after harm 2Knowing your partner 2Getting assessed and diagnosed 2When you use something to cope 2Being seen and judged 2Answering bids 2When anger turns to harm 2Self-compassion 2Listen to the body 1Reading, numbers and learning differences 1Act on your values 1Remembering to do it 1Rebuild trust 1Validate yourself and others 1What ADHD actually is 1Anger, alcohol and the body 1Panic and the body 1The cost of avoiding 1Your window of tolerance 1Affection and touch 1Care for yourself in loss 1
Approach
When · Under stress
In a raw, vulnerable moment, ask your partner directly for comfort and reassurance instead of hiding the need.
When you are hurting, the brave move is to say plainly what you need, hold me, tell me we are okay, rather than testing your partner or going silent.…
Before you respond, say back what you heard them mean.
Being understood, even before being agreed with, settles almost everything.
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