Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

7 practices
How long you have
Who it is written for
On your own, or with someone · On my own
Theme · Moving your body
Cool the body first 30The moment before you snap 30Grounding and settling 27Choosing your response 26Touch and bodywork 22Your nervous system 20What anger actually is 18The fear underneath anger 15Equanimity and perspective 14Breathing 10Tolerate distress 10Feelings and focus 9Staying regulated in conflict 9Feeling from the inside 8Moving your body 7Practising under provocation 7Medication and how it works 7Systems for daily life 6Bringing the future closer 6Making it stick 6What worry does 5Food, caffeine and fuel 5Shame 5Question the thought 5Breaking the worry loop 5Shame and stigma 4Get started 4Facing it a step at a time 4What you are actually defending 4Letting it out safely 4When everything feels flat 4Treatment and medication 4Calm the body 3Emotions as signals 3Growing empathy 3Let the wave come 3Name what you feel 3Obsessions and compulsions 3Posture and how you carry yourself 3Righteous anger and perfectionism 3Working with anger 3Your sense of time 2Screens and attention 2Safety and grounding 2Ride the urge 2Patience and trust 2Exercise, food and other supports 2Meaning after harm 2Knowing your partner 2Getting assessed and diagnosed 2When you use something to cope 2Being seen and judged 2Answering bids 2When anger turns to harm 2Self-compassion 2Listen to the body 1Validate yourself and others 1What ADHD actually is 1Reading, numbers and learning differences 1Act on your values 1Remembering to do it 1Your window of tolerance 1Affection and touch 1Rebuild trust 1Anger, alcohol and the body 1Panic and the body 1The cost of avoiding 1Care for yourself in loss 1
Approach
When · Under stress

Moving first does not only help you concentrate. It takes some of the heat out of being stuck, which is often the thing that ends the task.

For a lot of people the problem is not the maths, it is what happens inside them when the maths does not come immediately. That surge of frustration…

Five minutesMoving your bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 20:77

Hours of nothing, then panic, then three hours locked onto the wrong task, then dread, then a promise that tomorrow will be different. If that is your day, it is a known pattern and not a character flaw.

People post this shape as a joke and clinicians recognise it as an accurate description. Seeing it written down is often the moment something…

Five minutesMoving your bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 19:23

When you are low, the thing most likely to help is the thing you have least appetite for. Make the first step small enough that appetite is not required.

Getting as far as the front door can be the whole task on a bad day. Standing up, putting your shoes on, then deciding, is a fair plan. Anyone…

Five minutesMoving your bodyBody basedQur’an 19:25

A movement practice comes apart into pieces: the shapes, the breathing, the noticing. On a day when the whole thing is beyond you, take one piece.

Just the breathing, sitting where you already are, is a practice. So is one stretch held for a minute. Doing a fragment keeps the thread going, and…

Five minutesMoving your bodyBody basedQur’an 2:239

Slow movement practices seem to help mood, sleep and the general hum of stress. Bringing that background level down often does more for your concentration than trying to concentrate harder.

Running on a constant stress signal wears down exactly the part of you that plans, waits and holds a thought. So lowering the load is not a soft…

Twenty minutesMoving your bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 16:15

Some of what you are carrying has not finished happening. Movement that soothes rather than pushes tends to suit that better than anything strenuous.

Advice built around a danger that has passed does not fit a person still meeting it weekly, whether that is racism, an unsafe household or work that…

Twenty minutesMoving your bodyBody basedQur’an 2:153

If talking about it has not shifted things, a body based practice is worth trying next. It is not a consolation prize.

Some of what trauma leaves behind sits underneath words: the flinch, the going blank, the pull towards hurting yourself. Practices that work through…

LongerMoving your bodyBody basedQur’an 2:60

Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.