Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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7 practices
How long you have · Five minutes
Who it is written for
Where you are right now
On your own, or with someone · On my own
Theme · Reading, numbers and learning differences
Your nervous system 65Medication and how it works 49What anger actually is 46Equanimity and perspective 36The moment before you snap 34Touch and bodywork 34Get started 33Grounding and settling 32Getting assessed and diagnosed 32Exercise, food and other supports 31Your sense of time 30Choosing your response 30When everything feels flat 29What ADHD actually is 28The fear underneath anger 28Food, caffeine and fuel 27Systems for daily life 25Practising under provocation 22Treatment and medication 21Bringing the future closer 19Cool the body first 18Breathing 18Shame and stigma 18Screens and attention 17What worry does 16Feeling from the inside 16Moving your body 16What you are actually defending 15Feelings and focus 14Making it stick 11Structure and routine 11Being seen and judged 11Treatment and medication 10Breaking the worry loop 9Remembering to do it 9Growing empathy 9Obsessions and compulsions 9When you use something to cope 8Tolerate distress 8Righteous anger and perfectionism 8Self-compassion 7Reading, numbers and learning differences 7Emotions as signals 7Posture and how you carry yourself 5Question the thought 5Shame 4Facing it a step at a time 4Staying regulated in conflict 4When anger turns to harm 4When you go numb 3Act on your values 2Anger, alcohol and the body 2Use your strengths 2Living with uncertainty 2Meaning after harm 2Find meaning 2Work with your brain 2Shared spiritual life 1Rebuilding trust 1Rest and pacing 1Calm the body 1Repair after rupture 1Notice the pattern and flex 1Your window of tolerance 1Let the wave come 1Working with anger 1Your worth is not conditional 1Knowing your partner 1Get it out of your head 1The cost of avoiding 1Face it gently 1Letting it out safely 1
When

Most children do not pick up reading by sitting near books. Around a fifth need very structured, repetitive teaching before it clicks, and about half of the rest still need a good deal of deliberate instruction, so structured teaching is the ordinary case rather than a special measure.

It helps to stop asking who qualifies for help and start asking how much teaching each child needs. A child left to fail badly enough to earn support…

Five minutesReading, numbers and learning differencesCoreQur’an 96:5

When reading results lift across a whole state after every teacher is retrained, the lesson is uncomfortable and hopeful at once. A good part of what looks like children failing is teaching that has not caught up yet.

One state moved from flat to clearly improved reading in years when many others slipped, and what changed was not the children but how teachers were…

Five minutesReading, numbers and learning differencesCoreQur’an 22:78

Speech arrives on its own if a child is spoken to. Reading, writing and arithmetic do not, and it is no failing that they have to be taught piece by piece.

Children absorb talk from the people around them without lessons. Print is a much later invention and the brain has no ready made place for it, so it…

Five minutesReading, numbers and learning differencesCoreQur’an 96:4

A child working words out from the pictures and the shape of the sentence is guessing well, not reading yet. It usually holds up until around the third year of school and then gives way, because the pictures stop and the words get longer.

Ask to hear the child read something with no illustrations and no predictable pattern. That is where you find out whether sounds and letters have…

Five minutesReading, numbers and learning differencesCoreQur’an 96:1

When the usual route into reading or arithmetic does not form, children build another one, and it nearly always runs through memory. It works for years, and it costs far more effort than anyone watching realises.

This is the bright child who is somehow always tired, always slow with written work, quietly memorising what everyone else is working out. The route…

Five minutesReading, numbers and learning differencesCoreQur’an 20:26

In most children attention and memory sit at roughly the same level. When memory is far ahead of everything around it, ask what it has been quietly making up for.

Only fair attention with an unusually strong working memory is a signal rather than a strength to celebrate. The memory is carrying something. Look…

Five minutesReading, numbers and learning differencesCoreQur’an 28:34

Some people get all the way to university before anything is named, then meet eighty pages of reading a night and cannot do it. Nothing broke that night. The volume simply outgrew a way of coping that had held for years.

The history reads the same way every time afterwards: always needed longer, avoided reading aloud, dreaded timed tests, stomach trouble in exam…

Five minutesReading, numbers and learning differencesCoreQur’an 2:286

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