Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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9 practices
How long you have · A minute
Who it is written for
Where you are right now
On your own, or with someone · On my own
Theme · Food, caffeine and fuel
The moment before you snap 34Choosing your response 34Staying regulated in conflict 32Cool the body first 29Your nervous system 24What anger actually is 24Grounding and settling 21The fear underneath anger 20Get started 19Bringing the future closer 18Medication and how it works 16Your sense of time 14Equanimity and perspective 14Fondness and admiration 13Answering bids 13Treatment and medication 13Structure and routine 12Making it stick 12Systems for daily life 12Feelings and focus 11Practising under provocation 11Touch and bodywork 11Growing empathy 10Knowing your partner 9Food, caffeine and fuel 9Exercise, food and other supports 8What ADHD actually is 8Gratitude 7Remembering to do it 7Tolerate distress 7What worry does 6Moving your body 6When everything feels flat 6Screens and attention 6Repair after rupture 6What you are actually defending 5Breathing 5Being seen and judged 5Shared spiritual life 5Shame and stigma 5Treatment and medication 5Question the thought 4Getting assessed and diagnosed 4Feeling from the inside 4Self-compassion 4When you use something to cope 3Name what you feel 3Facing it a step at a time 3Safety and grounding 2Rituals of connection 2Righteous anger and perfectionism 2Hold a boundary 2Ride the urge 2Affection and touch 2Rebuilding trust 2Posture and how you carry yourself 2Patience and trust 2Panic and the body 2Working with anger 2Your worth is not conditional 2Emotions as signals 2Notice the pattern and flex 2Calm the body 2Meaning after harm 2Let the wave come 2Shame 2Get it out of your head 1Act on your values 1Keep the bond 1Obsessions and compulsions 1Listen to the body 1Face it gently 1Rest and pacing 1Letting it out safely 1Validate yourself and others 1When anger turns to harm 1When you go numb 1Anger, alcohol and the body 1Reading, numbers and learning differences 1Your window of tolerance 1Listening and understanding 1Breaking the worry loop 1Care for yourself in loss 1
When

The pull towards bread, pasta and biscuits when you are low is not simply greed. Carbohydrate makes it easier for the brain to get hold of the raw material it needs for serotonin, so it gives a real if short lived lift.

Calling it self medication instead of a failure of character changes what you do next. You stop trying to out-discipline the craving and start asking…

A minuteFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 52:19

Allergies turn up more often alongside ADHD than chance would predict. Worth mentioning your allergy history at an assessment even when nobody asks, since the two seem to travel together.

The likeliest explanation is not that one causes the other. It is that some of the same underlying wiring makes both more likely in the same person.…

A minuteFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 80:24

Some foods are formulated to be hard to stop eating. That is a design brief rather than a flaw in you, and it goes some way to explaining why one particular snack is the one you think about at eleven at night.

Knowing this moves the fight somewhere you can win it. Willpower at the moment of craving is a poor bet, and a decision made in the shop is a much…

A minuteFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:172

Even where a herb has good evidence behind it, that evidence belongs to the plant and not to the bottle in your hand. Testing keeps turning up products that do not contain what the label says.

This part of the argument does not depend on whether herbal remedies work. You could accept every claim made for a plant and still be left with the…

A minuteFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 80:24

Own brand products from large retailers were among the worst performers in these tests. A big name on the packet is not a quality check, however much it feels like one.

Own label goods are usually made under contract on thin margins with no independent verification of what comes out the other end. So the reassurance…

A minuteFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 16:66

People often turn to herbal remedies hoping to avoid side effects. Plants are chemistry too, and some of them interact with prescribed medication in ways that matter.

A plant extract is not one substance, it is a mixture of many, which gives it more places to interact rather than fewer. Origin has nothing to do…

A minuteFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 16:69

Your gut is not just plumbing. It makes many of the same chemicals your brain runs on and it is in constant conversation with your nervous system, which is part of why a bad stretch of digestion and a low mood so often turn up together.

If your stomach has been unsettled for weeks and your mood has slid over the same weeks, you do not have to work out which one is the real problem.…

A minuteFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 16:69

When you find yourself reaching for something sweet again, try asking what the reaching is doing for you instead of telling yourself off. Comfort, a small rebellion, a way to stay awake: the answer usually points somewhere useful.

Talk about being good or bad closes the conversation down. Curiosity keeps it open, and it tends to surface the actual job the food is doing, which…

A minuteFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:173

Put a rubber band round your water bottle for each refill you want to get through today, and slide one off each time you finish it. Nothing to remember, nothing to buy, and you can see where you are at a glance.

Tracking anything in your head is hard when your head is already full, and harder still when concentration is one of the things that has taken a hit.…

A minuteFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 16:10

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