Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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5 practices
How long you have · A minute
Who it is written for
Where you are right now
On your own, or with someone · On my own
Theme · Shame and stigma
The moment before you snap 34Choosing your response 34Staying regulated in conflict 32Cool the body first 29Your nervous system 24What anger actually is 24Grounding and settling 21The fear underneath anger 20Get started 19Bringing the future closer 18Medication and how it works 16Your sense of time 14Equanimity and perspective 14Answering bids 13Fondness and admiration 13Treatment and medication 13Structure and routine 12Systems for daily life 12Making it stick 12Feelings and focus 11Practising under provocation 11Touch and bodywork 11Growing empathy 10Food, caffeine and fuel 9Knowing your partner 9Exercise, food and other supports 8What ADHD actually is 8Remembering to do it 7Gratitude 7Tolerate distress 7Repair after rupture 6When everything feels flat 6What worry does 6Moving your body 6Screens and attention 6Being seen and judged 5Shame and stigma 5Shared spiritual life 5What you are actually defending 5Treatment and medication 5Breathing 5Self-compassion 4Feeling from the inside 4Getting assessed and diagnosed 4Question the thought 4When you use something to cope 3Name what you feel 3Facing it a step at a time 3Hold a boundary 2Meaning after harm 2Notice the pattern and flex 2Panic and the body 2Patience and trust 2Posture and how you carry yourself 2Rebuilding trust 2Ride the urge 2Righteous anger and perfectionism 2Rituals of connection 2Safety and grounding 2Shame 2Affection and touch 2Working with anger 2Your worth is not conditional 2Emotions as signals 2Calm the body 2Let the wave come 2Listening and understanding 1Act on your values 1Listen to the body 1Keep the bond 1Face it gently 1Letting it out safely 1Rest and pacing 1Anger, alcohol and the body 1When anger turns to harm 1Obsessions and compulsions 1Care for yourself in loss 1Reading, numbers and learning differences 1Get it out of your head 1Validate yourself and others 1Your window of tolerance 1When you go numb 1Breaking the worry loop 1
When

ADD and ADHD are not two different things. ADD is the older public word for what is now called ADHD, inattentive type, and the quieter presentation is not a lighter version of it.

The mix up matters more than it sounds. Parents sometimes hear ADD and take it to mean something mild that will not need treatment, and school or…

A minuteShame and stigmaADHD skillsQur’an 33:5

Manuals rename things. Paediatric bipolar became disruptive mood dysregulation disorder, whole categories were reshuffled to line up with the international classification, and none of it changed who anybody was.

If you have old paperwork carrying a label nobody uses now, that is bookkeeping rather than a hidden verdict on you. What is worth your attention is…

A minuteShame and stigmaADHD skillsQur’an 17:84

Some people will not believe this exists whatever you show them. You are allowed to give a short honest answer and then let the conversation go.

Keep one or two plain facts ready for people who are genuinely curious, because that conversation is often worth having. It is a different…

A minuteShame and stigmaADHD skillsQur’an 16:125

A blank face is not usually an angry one. If you tend to read disappointment into people who are only tired or thinking, that reading is a habit, and habits can be checked.

Two things feed it. Reading faces accurately is genuinely harder for some people with ADHD, and if you grew up being told off a great deal, expecting…

A minuteShame and stigmaADHD skillsQur’an 49:12

Talking a lot is on the diagnostic list. It sits with the impulsive symptoms, which makes it part of the condition rather than proof that you are self absorbed.

That reframe is worth having, because most people who do this have been told off for it for years and have drawn an unkind conclusion about…

A minuteShame and stigmaADHD skillsQur’an 48:17

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