Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

5 practices

Shared spiritual life A minute On my own Clear all

How long you have · A minute

A minute 5 Five minutes 1 Twenty minutes 1

Who it is written for

My husband or wife 5 Me 5

On your own, or with someone · On my own

On my own 5 Involves someone else 1

Theme · Shared spiritual life

The moment before you snap 34 Choosing your response 34 Staying regulated in conflict 32 Cool the body first 29 Your nervous system 24 What anger actually is 24 Grounding and settling 21 The fear underneath anger 20 Get started 19 Bringing the future closer 18 Medication and how it works 16 Your sense of time 14 Equanimity and perspective 14 Answering bids 13 Treatment and medication 13 Fondness and admiration 13 Making it stick 12 Systems for daily life 12 Structure and routine 12 Feelings and focus 11 Practising under provocation 11 Touch and bodywork 11 Growing empathy 10 Food, caffeine and fuel 9 Knowing your partner 9 Exercise, food and other supports 8 What ADHD actually is 8 Gratitude 7 Tolerate distress 7 Remembering to do it 7 What worry does 6 Screens and attention 6 When everything feels flat 6 Moving your body 6 Repair after rupture 6 Shared spiritual life 5 Shame and stigma 5 What you are actually defending 5 Treatment and medication 5 Being seen and judged 5 Breathing 5 Feeling from the inside 4 Self-compassion 4 Getting assessed and diagnosed 4 Question the thought 4 When you use something to cope 3 Name what you feel 3 Facing it a step at a time 3 Rituals of connection 2 Righteous anger and perfectionism 2 Ride the urge 2 Shame 2 Rebuilding trust 2 Posture and how you carry yourself 2 Affection and touch 2 Patience and trust 2 Panic and the body 2 Notice the pattern and flex 2 Working with anger 2 Your worth is not conditional 2 Let the wave come 2 Hold a boundary 2 Emotions as signals 2 Meaning after harm 2 Calm the body 2 Safety and grounding 2 Reading, numbers and learning differences 1 Breaking the worry loop 1 Care for yourself in loss 1 Rest and pacing 1 Keep the bond 1 When anger turns to harm 1 Get it out of your head 1 Face it gently 1 Letting it out safely 1 Act on your values 1 Listening and understanding 1 Validate yourself and others 1 Listen to the body 1 Obsessions and compulsions 1 When you go numb 1 Anger, alcohol and the body 1 Your window of tolerance 1

Approach

Gottman 3 Emotionally focused 1 Core 1

Encourage one thing your spouse wants to try, and tell them you have got their back.

Go, I am here if it wobbles. A secure base is what lets someone venture out bravely.

A minuteShared spiritual lifeEmotionally focusedQur’an 5:2

In one decision this week, ask what is best for us, not only what is best for me.

The small choices reveal the we. Let one lean toward the partnership over the self.

A minuteShared spiritual lifeGottmanQur’an 9:71

Keep the smallest thing you said you would do for your spouse today.

The call, the errand, the small promise. Trust is built from tiny kept words.

A minuteShared spiritual lifeGottmanQur’an 23:8

Speak about the future today as we, not I, in one thing you mention to your spouse.

When we are older, the home we are making. Language that assumes a shared road ahead.

A minuteShared spiritual lifeGottmanQur’an 25:74

Pray for them, by name, for one thing they are quietly carrying.

To ask God for the very thing that weighs on them is one of the most intimate acts of love.

A minuteShared spiritual lifeCoreQur’an 25:74

Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.