Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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24 practices

Treatment and medication On my own Clear all

How long you have

A minute 13 Five minutes 10 Twenty minutes 1

Who it is written for

A practitioner 24 Me 20

Where you are right now

Coping, mostly 16 Struggling right now 7 Getting ready for something 1

On your own, or with someone · On my own

On my own 24 Involves someone else 7

Theme · Treatment and medication

Your nervous system 108What anger actually is 83 Medication and how it works 83 The moment before you snap 76 Choosing your response 73 Get started 65 Systems for daily life 62 Grounding and settling 60 The fear underneath anger 57 Equanimity and perspective 57 Cool the body first 55 Touch and bodywork 52 Your sense of time 52 What ADHD actually is 49 Food, caffeine and fuel 49 Moving your body 48 Bringing the future closer 46 When everything feels flat 44 Exercise, food and other supports 44 Treatment and medication 43 Getting assessed and diagnosed 42 Feelings and focus 38 Practising under provocation 36 Staying regulated in conflict 36 Screens and attention 31 Shame and stigma 30 Making it stick 29 Breathing 28 Structure and routine 25 What worry does 24 Treatment and medication 24 Feeling from the inside 23 Tolerate distress 23 Being seen and judged 22 What you are actually defending 21 Growing empathy 20 Remembering to do it 20 When you use something to cope 19 Reading, numbers and learning differences 14 Breaking the worry loop 13 Obsessions and compulsions 13 Answering bids 13 Fondness and admiration 13 Righteous anger and perfectionism 13 Self-compassion 12 Emotions as signals 12 Question the thought 11 Facing it a step at a time 11 Knowing your partner 10 Shame 10 Use your strengths 9 Anger, alcohol and the body 8 Posture and how you carry yourself 8 Repair after rupture 8 Shared spiritual life 7 Gratitude 7 When anger turns to harm 7 Living with uncertainty 4 Meaning after harm 4 Letting it out safely 4 When you go numb 4 Your worth is not conditional 3 Calm the body 3 Act on your values 3 Name what you feel 3 Working with anger 3 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Let the wave come 3 Rest and pacing 3 Rebuilding trust 3 Safety and grounding 3 Keep the bond 2 Get it out of your head 2 Listen to the body 2 Your window of tolerance 2 Work with your brain 2 Find meaning 2 Rituals of connection 2 Face it gently 2 Ride the urge 2 Care for yourself in loss 2 Hold a boundary 2 Affection and touch 2 The cost of avoiding 2 Patience and trust 2 Panic and the body 2 Listening and understanding 1 Validate yourself and others 1

When

Any ordinary day 19 Under stress 4 In a change 1

The first week or so on one of these can feel worse rather than better: jittery, restless, sleeping badly. For most people it settles within a fortnight, and it is a known part of starting rather than a sign of harm.

Untold, a person quite reasonably concludes the medicine is making them ill and stops. Told beforehand, the same week becomes something to sit out,…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 94:5

Some anxiety medicines have no fast setting at all. They work on the receiving side of the system and take two to four weeks to show anything, so taking one in a bad moment does nothing and proves nothing.

For the right person the trade is a good one: nothing to become dependent on, no withdrawal, no dangerous mixing with alcohol, and nothing to reach…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 16:69

The gentler alternatives are for avoiding a habit forming medicine in the first place. They cannot carry someone who is already dependent, and offering one as a straight swap mid crisis sets everybody up to fail.

Once a body has adapted to one of these medicines, only a careful reduction of that same medicine will get a person off it, and a different drug will…

Five minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 39:53

Take a few photographs of your bedroom, then look at them later and circle whatever has to change or go. Seeing the room in a picture shows you things you stopped noticing years ago while standing in it.

The list is usually short and dull: the light on a charger, the pile of unfinished things on the chair, the television, the clock you keep checking.…

Twenty minutesTreatment and medicationMedical and treatmentQur’an 13:11

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