Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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48 practices
How long you have
Who it is written for
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On your own, or with someone · On my own
Theme · Moving your body
Your nervous system 108Medication and how it works 83What anger actually is 83The moment before you snap 76Choosing your response 73Get started 65Systems for daily life 62Grounding and settling 60Equanimity and perspective 57The fear underneath anger 57Cool the body first 55Touch and bodywork 52Your sense of time 52Food, caffeine and fuel 49What ADHD actually is 49Moving your body 48Bringing the future closer 46Exercise, food and other supports 44When everything feels flat 44Treatment and medication 43Getting assessed and diagnosed 42Feelings and focus 38Staying regulated in conflict 36Practising under provocation 36Screens and attention 31Shame and stigma 30Making it stick 29Breathing 28Structure and routine 25What worry does 24Treatment and medication 24Feeling from the inside 23Tolerate distress 23Being seen and judged 22What you are actually defending 21Remembering to do it 20Growing empathy 20When you use something to cope 19Reading, numbers and learning differences 14Obsessions and compulsions 13Righteous anger and perfectionism 13Fondness and admiration 13Breaking the worry loop 13Answering bids 13Emotions as signals 12Self-compassion 12Question the thought 11Facing it a step at a time 11Knowing your partner 10Shame 10Use your strengths 9Posture and how you carry yourself 8Anger, alcohol and the body 8Repair after rupture 8Gratitude 7When anger turns to harm 7Shared spiritual life 7When you go numb 4Letting it out safely 4Meaning after harm 4Living with uncertainty 4Calm the body 3Name what you feel 3Rebuilding trust 3Rest and pacing 3Safety and grounding 3Act on your values 3Let the wave come 3Working with anger 3Your worth is not conditional 3Notice the pattern and flex 3Get it out of your head 2Hold a boundary 2Work with your brain 2Face it gently 2Your window of tolerance 2Keep the bond 2Panic and the body 2Find meaning 2Listen to the body 2Care for yourself in loss 2Affection and touch 2Rituals of connection 2The cost of avoiding 2Ride the urge 2Patience and trust 2Validate yourself and others 1Listening and understanding 1
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Whatever gets you outside and quiet for a stretch of time counts. Fishing, sitting in a hide, weeding, waiting in the car park with the window down.

Nobody has to call it mindfulness for it to work like mindfulness. Hours of low demand attention outdoors, with nothing much required of you, is the…

LongerMoving your bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 28:24

Martial arts happen to bundle four useful things at once: hard physical work, a fixed structure, feedback in the moment, and a teacher who stays. That is why they suit restless minds so well.

Any one of those on its own helps a little. Together they cover the arousal, the shapelessness of time, the need for a reward that arrives today…

LongerMoving your bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 34:11

Long goals need markers you can reach this month. Belts work because you get a visible, earned step every so often instead of one distant summit.

Build the same thing into anything you are trying to keep up: a distance, a number of sessions, a move you could not do in January. Make it something…

LongerMoving your bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 53:40

A practice kept up for years stops being something you do and becomes part of who you are. That is when it no longer needs willpower.

People who started something physical as children and carried on often point to it as where their steadiness came from. The early years are the…

LongerMoving your bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 30:54

Keep a movement practice going long enough and your body starts doing it without you. People who have practised for decades describe the form running itself while their mind is elsewhere.

In the early months it takes all your concentration, which is why it feels expensive. Later it stops asking for that, and you get the calm without…

LongerMoving your bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 106:2

A few sessions give you an effect that fades. A few months of it starts to change your baseline. Plan for the longer version if you can.

One class leaves you calmer for an afternoon, which is real and also temporary. Fifteen weeks of the same practice is where people start reporting…

LongerMoving your bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 12:47

An hour a day of moving enough to warm you and shorten your breath. Keep a record of it, on a watch or on a scrap of paper, because meeting a number you can see turns out to be quietly satisfying.

It does not have to arrive in one block and it does not have to look like exercise. Walking to the shop, taking the stairs, standing at the desk for…

LongerMoving your bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 53:40

If talking about it has not shifted things, a body based practice is worth trying next. It is not a consolation prize.

Some of what trauma leaves behind sits underneath words: the flinch, the going blank, the pull towards hurting yourself. Practices that work through…

LongerMoving your bodyBody basedQur’an 2:60

Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.