Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

6 practices

Anger, alcohol and the body Coping, mostly On my own Clear all

How long you have

A minute 1 Five minutes 2 Twenty minutes 2 Longer 1

Who it is written for

A practitioner 6 Someone I care about 6 Me 6

Where you are right now · Coping, mostly

Coping, mostly 6 Struggling right now 1 Getting ready for something 1

Theme · Anger, alcohol and the body

Medication and how it works 52 Your nervous system 52 What anger actually is 45 Choosing your response 41 Get started 41 Systems for daily life 39 The moment before you snap 39 The fear underneath anger 38 Staying regulated in conflict 36 Equanimity and perspective 36 Your sense of time 31 Bringing the future closer 30 Moving your body 30 Touch and bodywork 30 Treatment and medication 27 Getting assessed and diagnosed 26 When everything feels flat 26 Exercise, food and other supports 26 Feelings and focus 25 Grounding and settling 22 What ADHD actually is 21 Food, caffeine and fuel 19 Practising under provocation 19 Cool the body first 18 Making it stick 18 Structure and routine 18 Screens and attention 17 What you are actually defending 17 What worry does 17 Treatment and medication 16 Growing empathy 15 Breathing 15 Answering bids 13 Fondness and admiration 13 Being seen and judged 12 Shame and stigma 12 Righteous anger and perfectionism 12 Feeling from the inside 12 Remembering to do it 11 Knowing your partner 10 Tolerate distress 8 Repair after rupture 8 Emotions as signals 8 Self-compassion 8 Breaking the worry loop 7 Gratitude 7 When you use something to cope 7 Shared spiritual life 7 Use your strengths 7 Anger, alcohol and the body 6 Facing it a step at a time 6 Question the thought 5 When anger turns to harm 5 Meaning after harm 4 Calm the body 3 Let the wave come 3 Posture and how you carry yourself 3 Rebuilding trust 3 Safety and grounding 3 Name what you feel 3 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Your worth is not conditional 3 Act on your values 3 Working with anger 3 Affection and touch 2 Reading, numbers and learning differences 2 Listen to the body 2 Keep the bond 2 Hold a boundary 2 Obsessions and compulsions 2 Patience and trust 2 Rest and pacing 2 Ride the urge 2 Rituals of connection 2 Get it out of your head 2 Find meaning 2 Your window of tolerance 2 Work with your brain 2 Face it gently 2 Care for yourself in loss 2 Validate yourself and others 1 The cost of avoiding 1 Living with uncertainty 1 Panic and the body 1 When you go numb 1 Listening and understanding 1

When

Any ordinary day 5 After a row 1

You are right that the first drink takes the edge off. That is exactly what makes it hard, and pretending otherwise would only be untrue.

The calm is real at a small amount and it turns on you as the amount climbs, which is why the argument at eleven at night bears no resemblance to the…

A minuteAnger, alcohol and the bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:219

Alcohol does not add anger. It takes off the brake. Stimulants do the opposite job and press harder on the accelerator, and having both in you at once is the worst arrangement of the two.

What drink takes first is the part that holds you back, which is why nothing feels different from the inside. You are not angrier, there is simply…

Five minutesAnger, alcohol and the bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 4:43

The strongest pull is not the anger by itself. It is anger plus being right, the lift in the body and the certainty of the moral high ground arriving together.

That pairing is genuinely hard to put down, because giving it up means giving up more than a mood. It means not being the wronged one for a while.…

Five minutesAnger, alcohol and the bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 12:53

Hormones are part of this for everyone, not only for men and not only in adolescence. If your flares seem to arrive with a rhythm, that rhythm is worth writing down.

Episodes that look random from close up often turn out to have a shape once there is a record of them: a point in a monthly cycle, a change of…

Twenty minutesAnger, alcohol and the bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 32:9

Anger has a chemistry of its own. There is nothing to pour down the sink and nobody to stop selling it to you, which is why letting it go feels like losing something rather than putting something down.

The lift is real. Heat, clarity, energy, a body that suddenly knows exactly what to do. Take that away and leave a gap where it was, and within a…

Twenty minutesAnger, alcohol and the bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 13:28

Sleep, food, illness and the run of stress you have been carrying set the height of your fuse before anything has even happened. Sort those out and you are simply a calmer person that week, with no insight required.

This is the cheapest work available and it is nearly always skipped, because it feels too obvious to count. Notice when your worst moments land: late…

LongerAnger, alcohol and the bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 78:9

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