Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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2 practices

Affection and touch On my own Clear all

Who it is written for

Me 2 My husband or wife 2

On your own, or with someone · On my own

Involves someone else 13 On my own 2

Theme · Affection and touch

Your nervous system 108Medication and how it works 83 What anger actually is 83 The moment before you snap 76 Choosing your response 73 Get started 65 Systems for daily life 62 Grounding and settling 60 Equanimity and perspective 57 The fear underneath anger 57 Cool the body first 55 Touch and bodywork 52 Your sense of time 52 What ADHD actually is 49 Food, caffeine and fuel 49 Moving your body 48 Bringing the future closer 46 When everything feels flat 44 Exercise, food and other supports 44 Treatment and medication 43 Getting assessed and diagnosed 42 Feelings and focus 38 Practising under provocation 36 Staying regulated in conflict 36 Screens and attention 31 Shame and stigma 30 Making it stick 29 Breathing 28 Structure and routine 25 Treatment and medication 24 What worry does 24 Feeling from the inside 23 Tolerate distress 23 Being seen and judged 22 What you are actually defending 21 Growing empathy 20 Remembering to do it 20 When you use something to cope 19 Reading, numbers and learning differences 14 Breaking the worry loop 13 Fondness and admiration 13 Righteous anger and perfectionism 13 Obsessions and compulsions 13 Answering bids 13 Self-compassion 12 Emotions as signals 12 Question the thought 11 Facing it a step at a time 11 Knowing your partner 10 Shame 10 Use your strengths 9 Anger, alcohol and the body 8 Posture and how you carry yourself 8 Repair after rupture 8 Gratitude 7 When anger turns to harm 7 Shared spiritual life 7 Letting it out safely 4 When you go numb 4 Meaning after harm 4 Living with uncertainty 4 Rebuilding trust 3 Safety and grounding 3 Let the wave come 3 Working with anger 3 Name what you feel 3 Rest and pacing 3 Act on your values 3 Calm the body 3 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Your worth is not conditional 3 Affection and touch 2 Listen to the body 2 Panic and the body 2 Patience and trust 2 Ride the urge 2 Rituals of connection 2 Keep the bond 2 Hold a boundary 2 Get it out of your head 2 Find meaning 2 Face it gently 2 Your window of tolerance 2 Work with your brain 2 Care for yourself in loss 2 The cost of avoiding 2 Validate yourself and others 1 Listening and understanding 1

Approach

Emotionally focused 1 Core 1

When

Any ordinary day 1 Under stress 1

When fear or hurt makes you want to hide today, reach for your spouse instead.

The instinct is to withdraw. Do the opposite: move toward, take a hand, let them in.

A minuteAffection and touchEmotionally focusedQur’an 9:40

Touch them once today with nothing else attached.

A hand on the shoulder as you pass. Sitting close on the sofa. Reaching for their hand while you talk about nothing. No agenda, no next step. Just…

A minuteAffection and touchCoreQur’an 30:21

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