Practices

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8 practices

Anger, alcohol and the body On my own Clear all

How long you have

A minute 1 Five minutes 2 Twenty minutes 3 Longer 2

Who it is written for

Someone I care about 8 A practitioner 8 Me 8

Where you are right now

Coping, mostly 6 Struggling right now 1 Getting ready for something 1

Theme · Anger, alcohol and the body

Your nervous system 108Medication and how it works 83 What anger actually is 83 The moment before you snap 76 Choosing your response 73 Get started 65 Systems for daily life 62 Grounding and settling 60 The fear underneath anger 57 Equanimity and perspective 57 Cool the body first 55 Your sense of time 52 Touch and bodywork 52 What ADHD actually is 49 Food, caffeine and fuel 49 Moving your body 48 Bringing the future closer 46 Exercise, food and other supports 44 When everything feels flat 44 Treatment and medication 43 Getting assessed and diagnosed 42 Feelings and focus 38 Practising under provocation 36 Staying regulated in conflict 36 Screens and attention 31 Shame and stigma 30 Making it stick 29 Breathing 28 Structure and routine 25 Treatment and medication 24 What worry does 24 Tolerate distress 23 Feeling from the inside 23 Being seen and judged 22 What you are actually defending 21 Remembering to do it 20 Growing empathy 20 When you use something to cope 19 Reading, numbers and learning differences 14 Answering bids 13 Righteous anger and perfectionism 13 Obsessions and compulsions 13 Breaking the worry loop 13 Fondness and admiration 13 Self-compassion 12 Emotions as signals 12 Question the thought 11 Facing it a step at a time 11 Knowing your partner 10 Shame 10 Use your strengths 9 Posture and how you carry yourself 8 Anger, alcohol and the body 8 Repair after rupture 8 Shared spiritual life 7 When anger turns to harm 7 Gratitude 7 Letting it out safely 4 When you go numb 4 Living with uncertainty 4 Meaning after harm 4 Name what you feel 3 Safety and grounding 3 Rest and pacing 3 Rebuilding trust 3 Act on your values 3 Working with anger 3 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Your worth is not conditional 3 Let the wave come 3 Calm the body 3 The cost of avoiding 2 Patience and trust 2 Affection and touch 2 Panic and the body 2 Listen to the body 2 Rituals of connection 2 Keep the bond 2 Hold a boundary 2 Get it out of your head 2 Find meaning 2 Face it gently 2 Ride the urge 2 Your window of tolerance 2 Care for yourself in loss 2 Work with your brain 2 Listening and understanding 1 Validate yourself and others 1

When

Any ordinary day 6 Under stress 1 After a row 1

You are right that the first drink takes the edge off. That is exactly what makes it hard, and pretending otherwise would only be untrue.

The calm is real at a small amount and it turns on you as the amount climbs, which is why the argument at eleven at night bears no resemblance to the…

A minuteAnger, alcohol and the bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:219

Alcohol does not add anger. It takes off the brake. Stimulants do the opposite job and press harder on the accelerator, and having both in you at once is the worst arrangement of the two.

What drink takes first is the part that holds you back, which is why nothing feels different from the inside. You are not angrier, there is simply…

Five minutesAnger, alcohol and the bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 4:43

The strongest pull is not the anger by itself. It is anger plus being right, the lift in the body and the certainty of the moral high ground arriving together.

That pairing is genuinely hard to put down, because giving it up means giving up more than a mood. It means not being the wronged one for a while.…

Five minutesAnger, alcohol and the bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 12:53

Anger sends people back to the thing they had stopped, and the thing they had stopped makes the anger worse. Any plan that treats these as two separate projects tends to come apart.

Write anger into the relapse plan by name, alongside the parties, the old friends and the difficult anniversary. Then when you look at the anger, ask…

Twenty minutesAnger, alcohol and the bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:168

Hormones are part of this for everyone, not only for men and not only in adolescence. If your flares seem to arrive with a rhythm, that rhythm is worth writing down.

Episodes that look random from close up often turn out to have a shape once there is a record of them: a point in a monthly cycle, a change of…

Twenty minutesAnger, alcohol and the bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 32:9

Anger has a chemistry of its own. There is nothing to pour down the sink and nobody to stop selling it to you, which is why letting it go feels like losing something rather than putting something down.

The lift is real. Heat, clarity, energy, a body that suddenly knows exactly what to do. Take that away and leave a gap where it was, and within a…

Twenty minutesAnger, alcohol and the bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 13:28

If drinking is anywhere in the picture, stopping will probably do more for your anger than any technique you could learn. That is not the interesting answer, it is just the one that moves the most.

Skills work at the edges of a hard moment. Alcohol removes the very part of you those skills run on, so you can practise beautifully on a Tuesday…

LongerAnger, alcohol and the bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 5:91

Sleep, food, illness and the run of stress you have been carrying set the height of your fuse before anything has even happened. Sort those out and you are simply a calmer person that week, with no insight required.

This is the cheapest work available and it is nearly always skipped, because it feels too obvious to count. Notice when your worst moments land: late…

LongerAnger, alcohol and the bodyMedical and treatmentQur’an 78:9

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