Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Narrowed down
3 practicesHow long you have
Theme · Question the thought
What anger actually is 89The fear underneath anger 51Choosing your response 47The moment before you snap 41Equanimity and perspective 23Making it stick 15What you are actually defending 14Righteous anger and perfectionism 13Staying regulated in conflict 12Screens and attention 11Answering bids 7Knowing your partner 6Rituals of connection 5Affection and touch 5When anger turns to harm 5Cool the body first 5Fondness and admiration 5Gratitude 5Repair after rupture 5Shared spiritual life 4Question the thought 3Working with anger 2Act on your values 2Reading, numbers and learning differences 2
Take the thought that is upsetting you and ask: what is another way to read this?
The event is fixed; the meaning is not. A second reading often fits the facts and hurts less.
Notice when you have jumped to the worst story, and hold it as a guess, not a fact.
They meant to hurt me, this always happens. Label these as theories, then look for evidence.
Name one hard thing today and ask what it might be growing in you: patience, humility, nearness to God.
Not denying the difficulty. Finding the meaning inside it that makes it bearable.
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.