Practices

Notice when you have jumped to the worst story, and hold it as a guess, not a fact.

They meant to hurt me, this always happens. Label these as theories, then look for evidence.

Name one hard thing today and ask what it might be growing in you: patience, humility, nearness to God.

Not denying the difficulty. Finding the meaning inside it that makes it bearable.

Catch the first body sign of anger, the jaw, the chest, the heat, and name it there.

Caught early, anger can be chosen. Caught late, it chooses for you.

When anger floods you, step away before you speak, and come back when your body is calm.

Past a certain heat the body cannot hear reason. Leave, settle, and return.