Practices

Ask what kind of person you want to be here, then take one small step that way, even while afraid.

Feelings are loud; values are quieter and truer. Let the step you take answer to the values, not the fear.

When you feel low and stuck, do the next small worthy thing anyway. Action moves mood, not the reverse.

Do not wait to feel like it. One small good act, then another, is how the heaviness starts to lift.

Take the thought that is upsetting you and ask: what is another way to read this?

The event is fixed; the meaning is not. A second reading often fits the facts and hurts less.

Notice when you have jumped to the worst story, and hold it as a guess, not a fact.

They meant to hurt me, this always happens. Label these as theories, then look for evidence.

Name one hard thing today and ask what it might be growing in you: patience, humility, nearness to God.

Not denying the difficulty. Finding the meaning inside it that makes it bearable.

Catch the first body sign of anger, the jaw, the chest, the heat, and name it there.

Caught early, anger can be chosen. Caught late, it chooses for you.

When anger floods you, step away before you speak, and come back when your body is calm.

Past a certain heat the body cannot hear reason. Leave, settle, and return.