Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Narrowed down
3 practicesHow long you have · Five minutes
Who it is written for
On your own, or with someone
Theme · Knowing your partner
What anger actually is 60The fear underneath anger 25Choosing your response 19The moment before you snap 15Reading, numbers and learning differences 15Equanimity and perspective 14Righteous anger and perfectionism 11What you are actually defending 10Getting assessed and diagnosed 10When anger turns to harm 9Screens and attention 8Making it stick 6Knowing your partner 3Shared spiritual life 2Cool the body first 2Act on your values 2Treatment and medication 2Working with anger 1Rituals of connection 1Repair after rupture 1Question the thought 1Staying regulated in conflict 1Affection and touch 1
Approach · Core
Ask them something you do not already know the answer to.
Today, ask your spouse one question you cannot predict the answer to. Not "how was your day." Something like: what are you quietly worried about this…
Name their three current worries to yourself, then gently check whether you were right.
Knowing what weighs on them today is how care becomes specific instead of general.
Learn how they were comforted as a child.
How someone was soothed long ago still shapes what feels like love now.
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.