Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Narrowed down
3 practicesHow long you have · A minute
Who it is written for
On your own, or with someone
Theme · Knowing your partner
What anger actually is 26Choosing your response 25The fear underneath anger 22The moment before you snap 22Staying regulated in conflict 11Answering bids 7Making it stick 6Equanimity and perspective 5Fondness and admiration 5Gratitude 5Affection and touch 4Repair after rupture 4Rituals of connection 3What you are actually defending 3Knowing your partner 3When anger turns to harm 2Screens and attention 2Question the thought 2Reading, numbers and learning differences 2Cool the body first 2Righteous anger and perfectionism 2Shared spiritual life 1Working with anger 1Treatment and medication 1
Approach · Core
Ask a follow-up question instead of offering your own view.
Curiosity says you are still worth discovering; advice can quietly say the opposite.
Ask what makes them feel most cared for, and then believe the answer.
Our usual gestures are often for the person we imagine, not the one in front of us.
Reference something they told you last week, unprompted.
Remembering the small details of their life is quiet proof that they were truly heard.
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.