Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
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2 practicesHow long you have · A minute
Theme · Question the thought
What anger actually is 26Choosing your response 25The moment before you snap 22The fear underneath anger 22Staying regulated in conflict 11Answering bids 7Making it stick 6Gratitude 5Fondness and admiration 5Equanimity and perspective 5Affection and touch 4Repair after rupture 4Rituals of connection 3What you are actually defending 3Knowing your partner 3When anger turns to harm 2Screens and attention 2Question the thought 2Reading, numbers and learning differences 2Cool the body first 2Righteous anger and perfectionism 2Shared spiritual life 1Working with anger 1Treatment and medication 1
Take the thought that is upsetting you and ask: what is another way to read this?
The event is fixed; the meaning is not. A second reading often fits the facts and hurts less.
Notice when you have jumped to the worst story, and hold it as a guess, not a fact.
They meant to hurt me, this always happens. Label these as theories, then look for evidence.
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.