Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Narrowed down
2 practicesWho it is written for · Someone I care about
Where you are right now
Approach · Emotionally focused
When · After a row
If a conversation has wandered off and you have lost the thread, go back to the last thing that had real feeling in it, and go back using the words they used.
Not a summary of those words. The actual phrase: 'you said she has her standards and you will never meet them, and your eyes went red when you said…
You do not have to reflect back everything a person just told you. Pick up the part that carries the weight and say that much.
A long, careful summary can flatten what someone has just risked saying. If the heart of it is that he feels defeated and frightened of never being…
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