Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
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How long you have
Who it is written for · Someone I care about
Where you are right now · Struggling right now
On your own, or with someone
Approach · Emotionally focused
You do not have to reflect back everything a person just told you. Pick up the part that carries the weight and say that much.
A long, careful summary can flatten what someone has just risked saying. If the heart of it is that he feels defeated and frightened of never being…
With someone deep in shame, your steady presence is not the warm up before the useful part. It is the useful part.
That means resisting the urge to fix, to explain the psychology of it, or to hurry them along to a better feeling. Sit at their pace. Keep your tone…
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.